Talking to Your Partner
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Being responsible for the life and well-being of another is a huge commitment. Because they can’t care for themselves, taking on the responsibility of a pet requires a dedication that some take on gladly, while others steer clear of.
So, what do you do when one of you wants a pet and one doesn’t? Some people are self-proclaimed “pet people” and others are not. Some find great joy in the companionship of having a pet, while others can only see the expense and the hassle of another thing to deal with.
While you may think pet people and non-pet people may never get together, things happen. In fact, the topic may never come up until your kids are suddenly standing in the kitchen with the cutest, dirtiest lost puppy you’ve ever seen. Now what?
It’s time to talk! Use these tips to get the conversation going:
- Keep it all in perspective. At the time, it may seem like you’re facing a life-altering decision of whether you take in a pet or not. But no matter which way it goes, it’s not the end of the world and everyone will adjust…eventually.
- Be open and honest. Know why you want or don’t want a pet and be able to explain your own feelings on the issue. Maybe you’re plagued with allergies and aren’t willing to endure sneezing fits or medications to accommodate a pet. Maybe you’ve always wanted a pet because your parents never let you have one. Whatever side you fall on, get your feelings on the matter out into the open.
- Listen. Really listen to what your partner or family members are telling you. Respond with empathy and understanding. Don’t just write them off as being stubborn if they feel very strongly about having or not having a pet. It’s an emotionally charged issue, and the answer is rarely simple.
- Be flexible. Understand what it takes to own a pet and your willingness to participate in the process. Are you absolutely a no-pet person or are there exceptions? Are you a pet person who is sold on one single ideal pet, or are you willing to bend for something different?
Saying “There will be no pets, and that’s final,” is not a conversation. Neither is showing up with a brand new puppy and saying, “Surprise!” People often have strong opinions about pets. It’s important to hear and understand where the others in your family are coming from on the issue before making a decision. And be ready for it to come up more than once. The best way to handle the situation is to talk it out!
This article is provided for general, informational purposes only and is not intended as advice specific to your situation.
